As I have had many requests on the subject from both men and women, today I explain how to do a complete and joyful fellatio in 7 steps.

Although oral sex has been part of our current sexual practices since the 20th century, we must not forget that it is based above all on the trust that the two partners of the couple have in each other.

It is always a bit impressive to find oneself at this crucial moment of the intimate relationship when one knows that one is going to give a genito-buccal caress to the other. Even with years of experience it should be kept in mind that it is an agreed exchange between two partners and that one never gives a blowjob to the other if one does not want it or to please him.

The same goes for young people who are just starting out in their sexuality, if you don’t feel the thing, don’t do it even if your partner dreams of it and wants it from you. The important thing is that you are comfortable with her sex and that you enjoy giving her this caress.

There is no such thing as a typical technique because everything we do is often guided by our emotions and feelings, however there are steps in oral sex that I will explain below. You can concretize them all or use only some, there is never any obligation, it is according to your desires and your feeling of the moment.

 

First step, don’t be afraid of the beast, take it in hand!!!!

My practical advice: Before you start anything, if you have any fears about your partner’s smell, hair and cleanliness, I advise you both to take a shower so that you feel free of what you fear.

Your partner’s penis is your friend, so feel free to touch and pet it gently to take possession before you start. It is always very pleasant for both partners to lavish these small caresses benevolent and sensual which put at ease.

If you are audacious, I would advise you to also take in hand the testicles and to massage them gently, the two caresses associated are as delicious to give as to receive.

You can also take advantage of it to masturbate your partner slightly, I am sure that it will cause you a lot of pleasure to see all the power you have over him.

Advice + : I insist on taking it gently in hand for having often seen women go there very suddenly. Although excitement can be a very strong motor, the fact remains that the penis is a sensitive area that must be treated gently.

 

Second step, the glans is to work first

Hear ye, hear ye! The glans is the most sensitive part of the penis, so it is very rich in pleasure sensors. The hypersensitivity is in the crown and the brake, so you can insist on this part as much as you like. To do so you have your lips and your tongue. You can even wet a finger and stroke the glans with it.

I advise you to use the flat of the tongue and gently rub the glans. You can also use the tip of your tongue to stroke the meatus and the brake.

My personal technique: I turn all around the glans with my tongue putting a lot of saliva, then after having titillated the half-breed, I delicately swallow the totality of the glans that I suckle.

Did you know that?: Blowjob has also been observed in animals. Bonobos use it to manage group conflicts but also for purely sexual purposes such as bats.

 

Third step: the flute technique

Once you have worked the glans well, you can go further and start licking the penis all along, this is the technique called the flute.

This makes it possible to reinforce the hardness of the erection and especially to continue to play with his partner. A blowjob is primarily considered a preliminary phase to sexuality. It is thus made to last a little and to make rise the excitement of the two partners.

For my part I like this moment very much because it allows me to give a real caress to my dear Master. As I am really a fan of this practice I take all my time and I apply myself strongly because I know that its enjoyment will be all the stronger.

My sex advice: Have fun and enjoy playing with your partner’s penis. At that moment it is you who hold all the keys to his pleasure and you can therefore imagine all the caresses that give you pleasure and apply them.

 

Fourth step: Suck or devour as you wish but enjoy yourself

At this stage of things, normally you must both be very excited, if not, stop there, it is that this caress is definitely not made for you at all.

For those who will continue, it is time to take in mouth the penis and to suck it or devour it according to your good pleasure. But beware of the teeth!!! it would not be a question of biting or skinning your partner.

This step is nicely called the “tuba technique”, just as you put the tuba in your mouth to dive, here it is the penis that you swallow gently. Don’t forget to breathe through your nose and go at your own pace, you’re in no hurry.

Depending on the size of the penis you will only be able to swallow a certain piece, once you have arrived at your maximum do not force.

My advice : Gentlemen do not need to press on your partner’s head for it to go further, not only will it not work but it may also discourage your partner from giving you more. It is in no way useful to force or rush the other because we want more, it breaks the magic of the moment.

 

Step Five: Deep throat is not an obligation

Deep throat is what you call oral sex, but not everyone has the art of swallowing their partner’s penis completely. Even if Linda Lovelace has made millions of men around the world dream thanks to her film “Deep Throat” it is not mandatory at all.

So it’s useless to mourn if you can’t, there’s still a good part you can play with comfortably. Forget the porn injunctions, you are not porn actors or actresses in demonstration.

For those who want to persist, it is necessary to fight against nausea and the desire to vomit when the glans touches the back of the throat and rushes into it. There are sprays that numb the throat but I do not advise you to use them because of the feeling that can be a little anxiogenic.

The best position to insert the penis deep into the throat is as shown in the picture. Go gently, without forcing, step by step knowing that you will have to train to achieve a perfect result.

 

Step Six: Don’t forget the testicles and perineum

There is an area that is often forgotten when performing oral sex and yet is also highly erogenous in humans. These are the testicles and the perineum, the area between the anus and the testicles.

It is an incredible playground believe me, it is possible by stimulating her correctly, to offer an excess of pleasure to your partner which is not negligible at all. You can lick it or pet it. Again, we’re taking it slow because these are sensitive areas. Any badly controlled ardour can directly stop the erection and make the magic of the moment fall back.

My technical advice :  For my part, I like to stimulate the testicles very much. I start by licking them gently then I swallow them one by one by sucking them gently. Then I play with it using my tongue. It also happens to me to swallow them both and to suck them delicately: guaranteed success with my Master.

The Must : Have you heard of “The Royal Blowjob”? no? it is about stimulating the prostate by inserting a finger into your partner’s anus. If you want to test just combine the two actions, suck, stimulate the prostate, you risk flying your partner to new peaks of pleasure.

 

Step Seven: Swallow or not ? that’s the question

If you are there it is because you worked well your partner and it is probably on the verge of jouissance. You feel it with the signs which are painted on its face, with its stronger breathing and of course with the contractions of its rod.

At this point everything lies in the art of knowing if you want your partner to enjoy or not in your mouth?

If you want to, you have to ask yourself the question of sperm, how will you manage it?

Don’t panic, you don’t have to do anything again. No one is there to see if you are on the side of the team that swallows or not. Nor is it your partner’s choice, only yours. You do what you want and what you feel.

My advice : Although I love my Master and we are in a BDSM relationship, I have never felt the obligation to automatically swallow his sperm. I always have a choice and I do it according to my desires. So I encourage you to do the same and remain the only person who decides for you.

As you have seen through my article, Blowjob is above all a sexual practice that encompasses both partners with respect for each other. Under no circumstances are you obliged to practice it and if you do you are not obliged to respect all the steps either.

You are deeply free to do what you feel, there are some people who want to live with everything and others with whom certain practices will be excluded. That’s the charm of life and sexuality. I hope that my article will have given you the desire to practice fellatio and will have opened axes of reflections.